Dear Ladies,

Hi my name is Sunshine or sunny and i want to start my own diary to help me get frustrations out because obviously its a crime to take it out on our boyfriends and husbands so feel free to give me your comments and share your experiences!

Well today me and my future husband (we have been together 1yr and 8 months) had a fight before he went to work! I got a urge to fight with him about his non existent help in the cleaning department, fyi he never cleans we have been in his moms pool house for 6 months and working on saving up for our own house and its bugging me on whether or not i can handle being little miss house wife, how do you ladies do it, well i cant so we fight at least once a week about this very topic, i wont stand to pick up after him, he claims he dosent even know what a washer machine is and dosent know how to clean a dish, and see's no point of picking up his dirty laundry, so HELLLLLLPPPPPPPP!!!!!! HOW CAN I DEAL!!!!!!!

SIGN,
A Desperate House Wife
aka SunShine

Hi Sunshine,

I don't have a husband yet but I always feel irritated with my younger brother who wouldn't do his share in house cleaning. My nagging didn't work so good thing our parents emphasized that it's ALL our responsibility.

Maybe, you need to calm down first before talking to him and saying your opinion on things

Hi Sunshine,

I think it's a good Idea that you tell this frustrations to him instead of writing it down on your diary. In relationship communication is the best way to make it work. IF you try to hide what you really feel about this issue then I think it will not help at all. You two have to talk about things and have it work out before its too late, fyi, you're still about to marry not married.

Well, at least talk to him and let him know about this issue, in the end, it's all up to you. It's for you to decide.

Fortunately we share all the housework with my husband, so when I 'm bisy he can do everything for me and vice versa.I think that's the way it should be in all families.Women earn money as well as men, so why on earth hey should do all the housework themselves?

Hi Sunshine.
Well I have been at home cleaning up after my family for 7 years. Its a hard job because after a while people just expect it of you and take advantage of everything you do. How do I deal you ask???? I work out! lol seriously, when I get angry at my husband I:
1)take a step back and think about the things he is doing for me
2)start working out with weights and run a little
3)cool down with a protein shake
After all this is done I feel better and happier and I have tons of energy I didn't think I had before, then I move to step 4
4)get to cleaning!

Men tend to think its our job to clean, it doesn't matter if we have another job or not, we are still expected to clean up after them. Some men are better then others but you should know before you get married what type of man you are with and also if he is this way now, he will most likely stay this way.
Good luck to you. Happy marriages come from a give and take relationship.

Dear Sunshine,

If I were you, I wouldn't even touch his stuff. I know you want to live in a clean place, so my suggestion would be to just keep throwing all of his stuff into a big pile. If you don't do his laundry, eventually he will run out of clothes...then what can he say? Maybe then he'll have to lift a finger.

Good luck to you!