Love is love no matter the ... (fill in ... with anything you wish for: age, sex, religion and so on).

I will start our thread with a story that made me realise that LOVE IS LOVE NO MATTER THE SEX.

I had 1 gay coleague. I didn't know back then about this. He was just a very nice guy, well dressed, polite, intelligent and good looking. A guy I befriended as coleague and it was nice talking to him about a lot of stuff.

Few years ago I came to work in a sunday afternoon and I saw him crying. It was one of the few occasions I have seen a man cry. I was shocke. He apologised for this :shock: and told me his best friend died in a car crash that morning. I felt very sorry for him because, even if I never had a best friend except for my BF, I would uderstand the pain of losing your soulmate for ever.

After some moths he told me he is gay and that friend was in fact his lover. Then it hit me: I would be totally devastated if anything happened to the man I love. I don't know if I could continue without him or, even if I could, it would be VERY hard to move on.

I realised then that love in the end is not related to sex. As long as we find a man/woman we love and the love is mutual, the feeling is in the end similar in all cases.

Needless to say he still has a hard time finding another person to love and had some breakdowns those months.

What do you think?

Shocking. I think you have a point here. In the end they can love as much as we love our opposite sex lovers.

well, I have discovered that many times life likes to mock at us. When I was young I wished my man to be tall (I had a thing with this) and my age. I thought 5 more years for him would be too much and he'd be too old for me. After I ditched my first BF (short like me and my age) I went to look for "Mr.Perfect". Well he was. Tall, handsome, young as myself, a dream come true. We got along well, but then it showed: we didn't have too many things in common and as perfect as he was (apparently)

We split and my next guy was the one who shattered all my ideas about what love is. Well, he's my height (a bit taller, 1-2 cm), 11 years older and he really turned me upside down. He's one of the smartest and funny people I have seen and he's so caring and attentive I am just shocked.

needless to say I am totally lost. I just look at him and feel my legs go numb, I would keep him in my arm for an eternity .. Am really ...lost.

FACT: I cannot explain why I love him, but I am greatful I finaly known TRUE love. Not a nice cozy relationship I would call love, but something that eats me alive. Love is love, no matter size, religion, colour or even sex.

When my gay friend was crying that day after his lover I was feeling bad for him (for such a loss) and for ME. I realised then I don't quite have what to cry for. Even if I liked my ex-BF and cared about him I knew that my world wouldn't tumble down if he was gone one day. Now I am "happy" to know that i really found my way and the man to walk it with, but I'm also scared to death since I know losing him would mean losing everything.

Ok .. time to comment

Don't be shy

wow ramona i think if my man died on me i would go nuts i have known him over 10 years he is my best friend ,lover, he is everything to me he is older then me by 7 years he is taller then me by a foot when i was young i was like u i wanted to find the mister right but never found him but i did 8 years ago if u died i would lose myself

Love is love, no matter the things other tell you!!!!

well, when i told my folks about my BF, they got very very upset and mad! i was attending a HIGHSCHOOL and he was only at a low school, he would finnish and...that's it, he couln'd go to college after that school...and my parents didn't agree with that! and so,...they started to investigate his family, his friends, even himself! they were like detectives!

back then, his mom worked as a teacher, she had a kindergarden, but it didn't work out, so she closed it, and continued to work as a teacher in different schools.
his father worked in the army, but retired some time ago,and now he is a guardian at a college front door.
well, my dad told me that his father NEVER WAS in the army, and that his mother is NOT a teacher, but a cleaning lady in the school i knew she worked in... BUT HE LIED TO ME!! and if i believed my dad, i would have been very wrong!

so,to proove me that my parents are wrong, my BF took me with him to his mom's school and prooved me that she really is a teacher! and took me to his father's old army, and prooved me that he did work there! he still has friends that are still in the army, and they come visit him...and i knew then that my parents lied to me! i got SOO mad, i lied them back!! i told them that i am not dating him anymore...and that went on for 3 years! i lied my parents for 3 years! but i am not sorry!

then one day, i went to the seaside with my parents and some friends. and my bf, who was in the army then, came to the seaside 2 days later, and we were secretely seing eachother...but one day, my dad saw us near the beach...and so we confessed all...we told him we were very much in love and we will NOT separate! i kindof ruined his vacation,but it served him right! he shouldn't have lied to me!

and we are still toghether, living toghether 2 floors above Ramona.. and he finnished that school and now goes to highschool. And he will go to college after 2 years, too...

so, no matter what other people think, love is love! my parents thought wrong! they tried to separate us, but they couldn't! and i am glad! :wink: