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    The Office/workplace

    Got an interesting story or problem with where you work?

    Feel free to share or even just rant!
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    We have a girl at the office who always asked the men to give her a hug and confides in them how painful it was for her to go through her monthly cycle, her uterus surgery and everything happened in her life. These men felt very uneasy so they talked to HR. Not sure what HR told her but she changed her "strategy". Now, she keeps telling them how good looking they are. This makes them feel even more uneasy.

    I am not sure what HR will do.

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    That girl has problems.

    I had my share of strange staff.

    When I started there was a 19 year old girl who was convinced she could become a model. She had all the right bits, but somehow it never added up, if you know what I mean.

    Now she is a middle aged woman, and is still convinced she is just as gorgeous. I was at a party she was at a while ago, and she was telling everyone that her daughter's friends all saidthat she was a real milf.....
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

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    I can write scripts to make a show like that again. There are so much going on where I am.

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    We have an older gentleman at work who is a supervisor. He is really a nice guy. When he walks up behind his people to see how they are doing he puts his hand on their shoulder, both male and female. Knowing him as i do, it is totally innocent. He has done it to me and I have no objection and neither do most of the people here. There is one woman that has turned him in for sexual harassment which i think is absurd. Whats your take on this?

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    Some people think that upset is the default.

    He will not get any more than formal advice to stop is my opinion. I wouldn't worry about him too much.
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    In our oldest clinic, we used to joke that the reception office was so small that two people in there constituted sexual harassment.
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    K, the woman that turned him in has no idea that one can be comforting without being a molester. I feel sorry for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherrystone View Post
    Some people think that upset is the default.

    He will not get any more than formal advice to stop is my opinion. I wouldn't worry about him too much.
    I agree with Cherry and it's troublesome that someone can't distinguish between the two.

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    Worse than that, the problem is insurmountable.
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    Re: The Office/workplace

    Our office has a 85% male vs 15% female. I would say all the men are happy in their marriage or relationship, we don't anticipate any sexual harassment to happen. But there are other issues due to unfortunate human natures.

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    My staff were about 80% female.
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    Re: The Office/workplace

    Quote Originally Posted by jengurl1987 View Post
    K, the woman that turned him in has no idea that one can be comforting without being a molester. I feel sorry for her.
    I do too Jen, she is so off base, this guy has to be one on the nicest guys I know and I'm not the only one that feels this way.
    Last edited by KJay; 10-23-2016 at 08:59 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KJay View Post
    I do too Jen, she is so off base, this gut has to be one on the nicest guys I know and I'm not the only one that feels this way.
    It's such a shame that nice people are often hit like that. Hopefully if the rest of the company backs him up, Hr will go easy on him and sweep the whole thing under the rug.

    My current job is pretty chill as far as drama is concerned but my last job... Never get into a relationship with your boss. I learned that the hard way. Very interesting year though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KJay View Post
    We have a man at work who is a supervisor. When he walks up behind people he puts his hand on their shoulder, both male and female. There is one woman that has turned him in for sexual harassment.
    If you look at your statement again as above, you will see that I have removed all opinion from it, and only left the facts. Nothing has been changed or added.

    Can you see the difference, and why he should be stopping it anyway.

    Sorry.
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    Re: The Office/workplace

    When you know someone well it's different when they touch you innocently (pat on the back, hand on the shoulder, etc.), but when you aren't friends, you most likely will not like someone touching you whatsoever, even if it's not sexual.

    Also, you don't want to get into trouble for it, even if it was not sexual on your part, but others can take it any way they want. I'd just keep my hands to myself in the work place, no matter what kind of terms I am on with people.

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    On further reflection, if this guy is a supervisor, how can he tell people about touching people in a friendly manner, when he is doing it himself?

    Once you get a step up, you not only have to do right, but be seen to do right too.

    That is something we all need to learn, it looks as if he hasn't learnt that yet.
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    If this is an older woman instead of an older man, will her behavior be questionable?

    If he move his hand beyond the shoulder? if not, then I think he was just being nice but did not realize his behavior could be misunderstood.

    Anyway, I am sure HR will do just what Cherry said, they will tell him not to do it again but that will be it. He won't be in any trouble.

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    Someone started a lottery club at my work a while ago when Power Ball hit over 600 millions. The guys who started the club decided who should be included. I find it a little uncomfortable when people see me in the hallway and ask if we should pool together to get tickets.

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    IT has been working on my computer for over 90 min now. I might as well go home! This is the fourth person who tried to troubleshoot my computer since the problem started last week. It became idle every 30-45 min but no virus was detected.

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    Quote Originally Posted by annlee View Post
    IT has been working on my computer for over 90 min now. I might as well go home! This is the fourth person who tried to troubleshoot my computer since the problem started last week. It became idle every 30-45 min but no virus was detected.
    Don't you just love IT???

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    Quote Originally Posted by KJay View Post
    We have an older gentleman at work who is a supervisor. He is really a nice guy. When he walks up behind his people to see how they are doing he puts his hand on their shoulder, both male and female. Knowing him as i do, it is totally innocent. He has done it to me and I have no objection and neither do most of the people here. There is one woman that has turned him in for sexual harassment which i think is absurd. Whats your take on this?
    Kay, do you know if she asked him to stop? If she did not voice her issue then she has nothing to stand on.
    Nobody understands another's boundaries unless they are specified.

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    Am I the only self employed person?
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    I have a feeling you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by daizy View Post
    Kay, do you know if she asked him to stop? If she did not voice her issue then she has nothing to stand on.
    Nobody understands another's boundaries unless they are specified.
    As far as i know she didn't but I am not sure. But just an update, he was called in for it and told to stop which he has done.

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    I am pleased he was treated fairly.
    It isn't easy being apathetic, but someone has to do it, or it will never get done.

    Time spent doing nothing useful, is never wasted.

    If there were no witnesses, then it wasn't me!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherrystone View Post
    I am pleased he was treated fairly.
    I think all and all everyone is happy with the decision including both him the woman that turned him in.

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    I am curious how long he did this until this woman complained to HR?
    Last edited by annlee; 10-25-2016 at 07:47 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by annlee View Post
    I am curious how long he did this until this woman complained to HR?
    He has been with the company as long as I can remember and doing that and she has been here about 6 months or so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KJay View Post
    He has been with the company as long as I can remember and doing that and she has been here about 6 months or so.
    He must feel terrible now. She should have told him before going to HR. If other people feel that bad, HR must have been informed already. Obviously, his behavior was considered harmless to others.

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