It is never a good idea to get involved with faculty, no matter what type of school it is. If you think the others don't see what's going on, you're fooling yourself!
Okay so I started attending cosmetology school in september. I'm 23 years old and have been single for three years now.
What's happening is that two months ago one of our instructors left the school and I was very attached to him. He always treated me like I was so good at what I did. I was crushing on him and ppl would tell me he was crushing on me but I knew better so I just shrugged it off and tried to be as professional as I could. One day there was a rumour going around that he was leaving and I didn't believe it because why wouldn't he tell me then he anounced to every one that it was his last day and I ignored him all day, I did say bye, and as time passed I started to feel like there was this emptiness surrounding me. About two weeks ago a new instructor was hired and I just dont talk to him and try to avoid it because I feel like he will be so awsome also and helpful and then just go.
Soon after the director started to pay close attention to me, when I'd miss a day he'd let me know that he noticed that I was missing school, when I'd get frustrated he'd go and give me a hug and said that he'd take care of the problem. He just always seems so concerned with what happens to not only me but the entire school and I love that about him because he makes us all feel special. When I need help with a hair cut he leaves his office and helps me, even if there is instructors that are available I dont see him do that for any one else and it makes me really happy some times.
i feel like he stepped in when he noticed how hard I was taking it when the instructor left and I want to keep it completely professional because I know he is a great connection for when I graduate, but I can't help it every time he's around my eyes just naturally roll over his body and I feel so stupid when I realize what I do. I don't know what to do all my friends attend the school so I can't talk to them because they will know and make it known to the rest of the school...
Last edited by Solitaire; 02-19-2012 at 12:50 AM.
thats the thing though i try not to be emotionally attached but its to hard when the director is obviously going out of his way to help me with a few things and i get the feeling that he isnt doing it to lead me on. like i think hes totally genuine.
i want to be professional but i get confused.
maybe im guy deprived at school or some thing......
Any guy who takes advantage of his students, I would not call "totally genuine". That's what he's doing. If he was really trying to help, since he is the director, not an instructor, he would defer to his subordinates. They are the ones who should be taking care of problems at the student/instructor level.
You need to reassess why you're there.
Sounds to me that he preys on girls that are unsure of themselves and their surroundings. I would tread lightly with this one. Set your boundries and do NOT overstep them! And if he pushes the issue...report him!
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